7 Simple Ways to Love Yourself More
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Make It a Day of Love!
Enjoy the day and remember love is an action.
Why are we talking about loving yourself more instead of loving others more?
It begins with you. Without love inside your own heart for you, there is little to give. When serving others, the first rule is the same as an airplane when it loses cabin pressure or being out in the middle of the ocean, you must save (love) yourself first then you can save (love) others.
The more love you have inside, the more you have to give. The more you give, the more love fills up inside.
I’m blessed with an amazing soulmate, Chika.
It wasn’t always that way. For the first 30 years of my life, I had a hard time loving myself. When I didn’t love myself, it was hard to give out love. It affected my self esteem, happiness, and fulfillment in life. Every morning I am grateful to have her in my life.
I’m writing this after a great morning of surprising my wife with breakfast in bed and a bouquet of flowers. We had her favorite which is a cheese omelette. (Mozzarella works really well for the gooey melty filling) We took a few pics to send to our relatives.
We are about to head on out for a beautiful hike and enjoy the view at Griffith Park Observatory. If you haven’t been there, you should check it out. It was featured a lot in the movie Yes Man with Jim Carrey.
So here it is: 7 Simple Ways to Love Yourself More
1) Decide to love yourself. – It begins with you. A decision means to cut off any other possibilities other than loving yourself.
2) Celebrate all successes big and small. – When you don’t celebrate the small successes you’ll be less motivated to continue. A simple way is to give yourself 10 pats on the back.
3) Express your love. – Look yourself in the eye in the mirror and say 3 times: “I thank you. I appreciate you. I love you.” Do it a 4th time twice as loud with a smile on your face.
4) Be compassionate on yourself. – This one could be the most powerful of them all. Realize right now that you always do the best you can with the resources you have. Beating yourself up never helps and only hurts. Acknowledge what happened and shift your focus to what you want.
5) Acknowledge your inner critic. – I used to be my biggest critic. Instead of ignoring the negative self talk or doubt. Acknowledge and embrace it. Say “Thank you for sharing. You served me in the past, I appreciate you and no longer need you.”
6) Become your biggest cheerleader. – With compassion and celebration, your inner critic will turn into your biggest cheerleader encouraging you giving you hope and motivation. Choose a couple of empowering “I AM” statements. Ex: I am an endless fountain of unconditional love. I am a powerful unstoppable loving caring playful lightning bolt of energy.
7) Let your inner kid play. – We all have a little boy or little girl inside us. If we don’t get to play, we get sad or throw temper tantrums. Schedule time for yourself to play. What did you love to do when you were little? Sing? Dance? Draw? Go skipping? Play in the dirt? You will nourish your spirit and your soul.
Be playful! Remember we are all kids inside.
Enjoy your day with yourself and with your loved ones. Don’t have a partner right now? No problem, that’s easy. You attract who you are. So if you love you, you will attract others who will love you. =)
“Wherever you go, there you are.”
Lots of love,
Eiji Morishita
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I'm just an ordinary person who is horrible at many things and very good in 1 or 2 things. Grateful to be married to my wonderful wife Chika. I'm a kid at heart who loves to play and help others.
My passion is helping people discover their gifts and the genius that lives inside all of us. My mission is to do my part in ending suicides in the world creating a bright future worth living.
From the 1 or 2 things that I do well, I've trained and coached Teens, Olympic Athletes, Leaders in Business & Military, and interviewed by KABC-TV LA, Canadian CBC-TV, and Red Herring Magazine.
I enjoyed reading this Thanks also for the reminder “Let your inner kid play” It is by far one of my favorite. I just wrote a blogpost about this “The Blissful Art of Being Single- Love Yourself” and I share a story of how I remained single for the most of my teenage years by CHOICE because I was trying to figure out who I was. I saw too many friends seek approval and happiness outside of themselves. And to be honest with you, I just wanted to fill up my ‘love tank’ first before I can even cherish another human being. I wanted to know me and embrace me for who I am & who I was becoming. You have to find the peace, joy, and love within you. If you recognize it within yourself then you will be able to share it with everyone around you.
My friend Albert from UrbanMonk.Net shared this in his blog and it went straight from my head to my heart:
“Wear a smile on your face, and one in your heart. Can you do it? It’s so simple – smile with your heart. Imagine your heart smiling. Then broaden it until you smile with your whole being. And just accept yourself. Look at every part of your body; direct your smile at each part – the scars, the injuries, the illnesses, the features you find attractive, the features you hate, the fat, the skinniness, the cellulite.
Take all the time you need. Touch your pain, your flaws, and your scars the way you would touch a lover. Accept them so much, direct a loving energy towards them, think loving thoughts, and smile at them so much that you begin loving them. Loving yourself, not despite of these flaws, but because of them. Do it everyday, as much as you can. Undo the condemnation and the judgment that has been piled on you since birth.”
Thanks for the POST =)
You & Chika are TRULY ADORABLE. Lots of Love & Blessings to you both on your day together.
Your Friend Always,
Therese Miu
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Thank you Therese! That is awesome. I love your post, it’s so powerful!
Thanks you for giving us the gift to wear a smile on our hearts.
Lots of love, my heart is smiling =)
Eiji
I LOVE this:
“Acknowledge your inner critic. – I used to be my biggest critic. Instead of ignoring the negative self talk or doubt. Acknowledge and embrace it. Say “Thank you for sharing. You served me in the past, I appreciate you and no longer need you.”
You served me in the past, I appreciate you, and no longer need you.
This is so great to re- remember! Thank you! Thank you!
You’re welcome Deb! Thank you for your comment.
It’s human nature to forget and we constantly have to re-remember. I don’t know why it happens and in some areas quite often but for me it’s the simplest things that I forget sometimes.
All my pains and struggles came from forgetting who I am and what I have.
Look forward to seeing you again soon.
Lots of love,
Eiji
Eiji, my heart can’t help but smile when reading this post and looking at the photos of you and Chika!
This post is a great reminder that love begins with loving yourself. Only when you love yourself then you can really love others – because you simply can’t give away what you don’t have. One metaphor that came to mind was from Wayne Dyer, a metaphor of an orange. When you squeeze an orange, what comes out is orange juice… because that’s what is inside.
Your 7 ways to love yourself is great… it goes straight to my “Lessons of the day” journal! I love all 7 points, but point number 2 about celebrating all successes big and small is especially very timely reminder for me this week… as at times I forget to pat myself on the back for the small ‘wins’ I experience throughout the day. It is a great reminder of not taking these for granted.
Point number 7 on Letting your inner kid play also speaks to me so much… it’s something that my beloved and I could do more of – sometimes we let life seduce us into taking things too seriously
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Thank you for this loving post Eiji. Lots of love and blessings to you and Chika – you two are very blessed to have each other!
Peace, Love, and Blessings,
Andre
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Thank you for this post Eiji!
I will hold on to this:
“if you love you, you will attract others who will love you.”
It truly begins with ourselves. We cannot give
what we don’t have much less expect to receive it.
I think what we seek is always all around us.
We may not see it in the exact package that we
want but it is always there.
I’m so happy you and ChiKa found one another.
You make a great couple! I have been blessed
to be around people and know who truly have
found their soulmate. You guys radiate L-O-V-E!
Thank you for sharing.
Thérèse
“I think what we seek is always all around us.
We may not see it in the exact package that we
want but it is always there.” – Thank you Thérèse! That’s powerful! What’s beautiful is the circle of celebration. The more we celebrate, the more celebration we attract.
It is very important to love yourself before you can ever love anything or anyone else. Great post indeed!!! I also like how you incorporated your personal pictures….Nice touch!
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Thanks Kristi! Looking forward to your posts. =)
thanks Eiji…it really inspires me….thank you soooo much…
You are welcome! I’m happy it inspires you. =)
Hi Eiji,
Enjoyed this even though it\’s not Valentine\’s Day. I\’ve been learning a lot lately about loving myself more.
What I really like is the Down to Earth way you put practical steps we all can apply to show love to ourselves.
I\’m learning to play more and it does make a big difference in my stress level.
Keep on sharing your genius ideas. Love them!
Thanks Debbie! Wouldn’t it be nice if we treated everyday like Valentine’s Day for love, and Thanksgiving for gratitude, and New Year’s Eve for celebration. =)
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Eiji,
My favorite was No. 7, scheduling time for yourself to play. While it takes being in a comfortable place with someone you trust, allowing that inner child to come out and play is so gratifying. Great reminders here! We need to love ourselves more:)
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